Sigrid and Edwin Millare have been married 32 years. They raised two sons in the faith — made sure they knew God, knew right from wrong, and knew how to build a life worth living. And when those sons finally left to do exactly that, the house got quiet. Really quiet.
Studies show that 40% of couples divorce when they become empty nesters. The kids leave, the shared purpose disappears, and suddenly two people who built a life together are looking at each other wondering what’s next.
But Sigrid and Edwin had something most couples don’t — a marriage built on God’s word. And that foundation gave them new reasons to choose each other again.
This is a conversation about the grief nobody warns you about, the marriage nobody thinks to protect during this season, and what it really means to let go and embrace the next stage God has for you.
Episode Timestamps
00:00 Empty Nesters: When the House Gets Quiet
02:01 32 Years of Marriage: Meet Sigrid and Edwin
08:13 Sitting in Joshua’s Room: The Grief That Catches You Off Guard
12:45 What Do You Wish Someone Had Told You?
15:19 What to Tell a New Parent
16:08 The Reset: Getting to Know Each Other All Over Again
18:27 32 Years Later: What Did You Not Know About Each Other?
20:41 The 40% Statistic: What Keeps Faith-Based Marriages Together?
24:36 God’s Role in Their Marriage
25:23 Why Hard Times Are Necessary
28:35 Advice for Young Couples
33:36 Why Self-Awareness Saves a Marriage
37:49 Making Sure the Kids Stay Grounded After They Leave
48:03 What Would You Want Your Boys to Say About You?
52:59 Gentle Parenting vs. Strictness: The Bible’s Take
57:49 Pointing Your Kids Back to God in Everyday Moments
1:03:00 Rapid Fire: The Wedding Photo That Said Everything
1:05:33 Dream Vacations and What’s Next
1:07:03 32 Years of Wisdom
1:11:33 Change Is…
Sigrid and Edwin weren’t prepared for how quiet the house would get. How a whole year could go by and the sadness just… stayed. Lingering.
But somewhere between the sunsets on the patio, the italian restaurants and their new hobbies… something shifted
Not because they stopped missing their sons. They still do… But because they chose to look at what the change gave them… an opportunity to finally see what God had been building all along..in their sons, in their marriage, and in themselves.
Sigrid and Edwin didn’t just survive this season. As empty nesters, they found the next version of themselves in it.
If you’re in the middle of a change that you feel uncertain about…maybe even a little nervous, this is your reminder that bittersweet is still sweet. And that sometimes the life waiting for you on the other side of letting go is more beautiful than you can imagine right now.
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